Technology and flirting with the universe
Hi Friends,
I feel called to speak to you. If you forgot who I am and why you once clicked follow and are confused by why you’re here, it’s ok, you get to read, or not, re-adjust your follows or settle in, as per your desires. Some things I’m thinking about:
Always following your desires as long as no one is being harmed. Try to at least. We should understand what limits us from following our desires. Desiring and following the trails of those desires is deep spiritual ancestral work. Don’t ever get it confused for something trivial. And understand the forces working against your ability to desire and reach for those desires are the same forces currently at work terrorizing folks in LA and Palestine and all over this earth in the name of endless greed, destruction, and yes, even desire. Make no mistake: someone is following their most base desires and finding the true power in that practice. It’s either us or them. So activate yours, buckle in, and lets not be small about what we want any longer.
If you forgot why you were here, or know me in real-life but don’t care for me creatively, don’t like this content, you should feel free to follow your desires and unfollow. This applies to me or any other artist/creator/person that doesn’t bring you joy. If you like being here, great. This is not about me, it’s all for YOU. Use social media to bring more of what you desire in your life by engaging with that content. There are lots of ways to do this.
I have degrees from places I don’t really care about because, be for real, we are seeing the live downfall of all kinds of institutions right now, even your favorite universities, but I will now take the opportunity to tout my degree in computer science, and my experience working in technology for years. But really it was having a computer at my home in the 80s/90s because my mom was a programmer before I ever was, that is my real technology experience. She’s an Acquarius alien techie genius baddie who defies my understanding more than any other person I know. Those are my credentials. Ok let me go to point 3.
Be smart as you engage with social media. Don’t treat it trivially or like it doesn’t matter. Engage with powerful content you like, content creators you like. Don’t worry if they don’t already have a lot of followers. (Also fyi it’s terrible energy to ever hate-engage with content. You’re still giving them your energy. Basic spiritual advice or just life advice, be where you feel SO good.) Flirt with the universe everywhere, not just on dating apps. Flirting across technology is an incredibly anti-establishment. Commenting, following, engaging with artists, creatives, activists beyond the flashy lure of already established presence is very radical. Uplift those who are doing the heavy lifting of informing us of hard things, things the State is trying to hide from us. Send them love. Think of flirting as something you do everywhere. It will make this next go of resistance much more fun, and we need it to be fun. Spend as much time engaging with that weirdo that makes the content that you enjoy secretly as you do chatting with that random person you connected with on Feeld but haven’t met irl yet. Understand it’s the same energy. Flirting. And understand Flirting is a life force.
I haven’t been writing here much but I’ve been playing with expression on Tiktok and while I’m hesitant to cross-contaminate followers from one platform to the next, I’m sharing my tiktok here in case you want to follow me. I have very few followers on tikok which I love because it feels like freedom to not recognize any names. But tiktok functions differently than other platforms I have realized, even when people you know follow you, it sort of elevates strangers engagement to be on par or even higher than your friends, creating a space where creators can feel more insulated from having to worry about perception. Or maybe that’s just my issue. Maybe most creatives are chill with other peoples’ perception. Anyway, I might be here less or more or on there less or more. I’m playing across mediums and platforms and here’s another chaotic weird lovely place to find me:
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Sorry, random add-on and with all due respect, if you are still saying your not on Tiktok but you’re on Instagram and Facebook, after this administration tried to ban Tiktok this year, you again need to look at your relationship to social media and comfort with the old ways. I’m mainly talking to my middle-aged generation and up here. We are seeing the end of the old ways, and that means we will have to do new things. I’m not saying follow me, I don’t care either way what you do with my content. I am saying that Tiktok, as I have discovered from using it, works significantly differently than Instagram. You find different content. The algorithm learns you slightly better rather than draining you. I don’t leave Tiktok feeling as tired as I do Instagram. All these social media apps have the ability to do harm and help us, connect us. To use technology smarter, which is I guess what this newsletter is about, we have to abolish binaries. Good/bad they don’t work in life and they certainly don’t help us in terms of how to use technology for our personal and collective good. What is this app good for? What is is not great for? That’s the question. And to be wholly off of Tiktok right now is obviously a valid life choice, Do you, but certainly don’t be so gullible to believe the State when it tells you Tiktok is evil, or Tiktok is dumb, or just for kids. Think smarter. I’ve heard one too many people dismiss tiktok while endlessly continue to scroll Instagram and it’s just tiring tbh. Just say you’re unwilling to change or learn some thing new. That would be more honest.
I have been saying grief is a portal to our deepest desires and the lives we most want to live in a myriad of different ways, here, there, and everywhere. But mostly when I’ve been saying a thing, I mean I’ve been living it. My life is the grand experiment by which I test these theories out. My life is my ultimate art experiment. In the end it will all be known. But until then, I share bits and pieces of what I learn of the journey along the way. I have written various places about this. I have hosted online gatherings, The Art of Endings, where we actually do the work together to find our way through transitions with wonder and awe. I have individual clients. And I have relationships of all kinds, that function outside of the spector of any capitalistic understanding, where I affect people deeply and they affect me. This work is ongoing for me and I have been learning how to make sense of what I know to be true about my fundamental nature and the universe for my entire life. More in 6.
We have been in grief’s portal for years now. Some of us longer and some of us for less time, and then there are those folks who are resisting the portal. I specifically grieve for those folks, because that resistance seems harder than any grief I have ever seen or known. Some of us see what is waiting for us on the other side of letting it all break. Some of us fear so deeply what is unknown1 that what they do not realize is that our fear is the exact recipe for harming others. It is essential now more than ever to look at what prevents us from transforming because of the state of the world. If we do not allow the natural order of things to flow where they want to flow, if we create blockage, hold on too tightly, we are essentially doing harm at this point. There’s no two ways about it. There is a small boat of dreamers making their way to Gaza as I write, because of the harm of a few powerful folks clinging to the fears they need to release. Griefwork, by way of pleasure and desire practices, is a very powerful tool for releasing these fears while understanding It’s Truly and Deeply All Ok. Your ancestors are trying to talk to you, but they need you to be loose first bb.
The Mundane is Everything. Every small ordinary moment in your life, despite you taking a photo of it or not, posting about it or not, is the whole point. Always remember technology is a tool, not the end result. It works for us and is never entirely the point. The actual experience of life is the whole of it, the viewing or digitized version of it is not trivial or unimportant, but it is a different category. Every moment of your life is perfect. Let it flow. Be in it.
Ok that’s all, I meant to say 1 or 2 things, I actually meant to do some other thing completely unrelated to any of this, and then I came on here and wrote these points b/c I wanted to connect briefly. I’m here, and so are you. We are still here. And this is just a reminder that you can flirt with the universe and the universe will most definitely flirt back with you. All my love to LA and all of us.
The case for bewilderment. https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8Mngd3w/